谨言慎行

Quick to Listen Slow to Speak Slow to Anger

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about the power of our words—and the times when it feels like we just can't hold them back. In a world that seems to demand instant replies and fast opinions, I’ve been drawn to a simpler, older wisdom.

It's an ancient Chinese idiom that really speaks to me: 谨言慎行 (jǐn yán shèn xíng). I love how it tells us to be "cautious in our speech and prudent in our actions." It’s a beautiful reminder that our words aren’t just sounds; they carry weight. It's about taking a moment to think before we speak, and to consider the consequences of what we say and do. I’ve realized how much I need this advice in my own life.

When I came across this wisdom, my mind immediately went to a verse that has always been important to me. It’s in the book of James, and it feels like a spiritual counterpart to that Chinese proverb. In James 1:19, we are told:

"My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry."

For me, the link is so clear. James is telling us that being "slow to speak" is not about being silent, but about being a thoughtful listener first. It's a reminder to put down our own thoughts and truly hear what someone else is saying. When we do that, we’re far less likely to say something we’ll regret. Being "slow to become angry" is a natural result of this.

This isn’t easy, and I’m definitely still learning. But the more I practice being quick to listen, the more I find that my words become more meaningful and my actions more thoughtful. For me, the wisdom of 谨言慎行 and the timeless command in James 1:19 have become a powerful, daily reminder to choose my words and actions with intention, and to live a life that is truly a reflection of wisdom and grace.